How I Landed Bryan Ferry as a Client....

It took me YEARS to have the confidence to allow myself to just BE myself!

You know when you put a different hat on to appease the stuff you’re doing, but here’s the thing… it never appears authentic.

Being authentic and being yourself works so much better. It’s sustainable, it won’t lead to burn out and it’s a joyful place to be working from.

I’m not saying you should completely air your laundry in public, but with a little tweaking and just enough holding back, you can be yourself and shed the weighty drama of trying to be something you’re just not.

Now, you’re probably reading this and throwing your eyes upwards thinking….. yeah, so? I know that….

BUT. My question to you is…. are YOU actually being your true self?

When menopause hits, our buffers such as testosterone and estrogen amongst other hormones, deplete which means we’re more susceptible to heightened sensitivity. This means that the simplest (and less confrontational) route to an ‘easy’ life is just to go with the flow and hide whatever we’re truly feeling and thinking.

I wrote a mini book some years ago (never got it printed) and I thought I’d prècis the 3 Life Changing Power Tools I wrote about that helped me to bag a true Rock Star for a client and exhibit my true self without feeling icky nor awkward about it.

POWER TOOL #1

'The ‘F#!c It Cloak’

(I think the name works perfectly for this, but name it what you will)….. Fearless Cloak, Power Cloak even Audacious Cloak.

Basically it’s a tool that you can use when you need to distance yourself from the situation and want an invisible barrier of protection.

It’s your verbal bulletproof vest.

Your shield. Your crisis camouflage!

The day I told my husband our marriage was over, I dithered about when to tell him. In the end I donned my imaginary F-It Cloak, enveloping me with my Superpowers and my inner woman strength. Then I told him.

I used my F-It Cloak to protect me from negative emotions. When the deed was done, I popped it back in my mind’s tool box.

Don’t knock it ‘til you’ve tried it. Seriously!

POWER TOOL #2

'The Clarity Tool'

Gets you clear on what you want. We know that menopause is the crossroads that leads us into our 3rd Age and often referred to as ‘The Change’….. there’s a reason for that and it's a GREAT time to change your focus and use the Clarity Tool.

Frustration and panic can settle in when you’re not sure where your life is heading. Kids have flown the nest (for many, a long time ago), you may be ready to retire but not to stop working.

Many people opt to set up an online business (something else I help women do) but more about that another time. Sounds brilliant, but what where do you begin? What would you sell? If you could just find out EXACTLY what you want from life, this choice would be simple….. True?

Just so you don’t feel a failure if this IS you, let me tell you, you’re in the majority. 98% of people don’t know what they want and knowing this can take the pressure off when you realise you’re not alone.

However, my Clarity Tool takes you to the next level and allows you to turn that uncertainty around! If you don’t know what you want, then you’re very likely to know what you don’t want. Perhaps you need to switch your focus around and work back from there (this is what my tool does!).

and finally…. How I turned a music legend into my client ……..

POWER TOOL #3

'The Vivid Visualisation Tool'

This sets your internal satnav towards the destination so you simply have to plot your journey and you can see the ‘plot spoilers’ as they arrive. You’re mind is aware of the traffic you need to dodge and the VV Tool is like a prompt for your mind’s awareness to get you there safely.

It took me YEARS to know how to effectively visualise. I thought it was must mumbo-jumbo if I’m honest, until I actually tried it and it worked.

I visualised having someone famous as a client to raise my profile. I kid you not, two days later I received a call from Bryan Ferry’s assistant to ask if I could work with him! My mind was blown. It worked. Hand on heart!

Another time I was driving along and wondering how I was ever going to afford a deposit for a new home after my divorce. The following week, a friend actually offered to loan me a deposit for my home!

Don’t diss the power of these tools.

Having a few simple, yet effective tools to help you navigate your life, helping you to be authentic, to gain clarity of where you want your life to go and to help your confidence grow TENFOLD, is priceless.

Embrace the 3rd Age x

Julie is a menopause and weight-loss coach for women who are fed up with feeling tired, heavy and stuck in a body that no longer feels like theirs. She helps women lose weight, regain energy and feel clear-headed again through hormone-aware coaching, real food, better sleep and lifestyle change — not dieting or willpower.

Ready to feel like yourself again? Work with Julie at juliereganwellness.com or get in touch via julieregancoaching@gmail.com